Sharon Ann Wikoff shares stories and experiences
about her journey in life which she hopes will inspire and empower readers
to use their life as a means for learning, growing and becoming.
|Posted on March 1, 2018 at 12:55 AM||comments (0)|
I wanted to share you a brief quote by Wayne Dyer, which I
feel is very powerful and
puts everything into the
The essential lesson I've learned in life
is to be yourself.
Treasure the magnificent being
that you are
and recognize first and foremost,
that you're not here
as a human being only.
You're a spiritual being
|Posted on March 1, 2018 at 12:55 AM||comments (0)|
As we choose to want to live more consciously, opportunities arise to become aware of the way we are in the world.
How do we treat our self?
How do we treat others?
Do we have to have things our own way, or are we flexible?
What pushes our buttons?
Before we became conscious, we might just accept whatever we do, as just being “ME”. But as we become conscious, knowing that our actions do many a difference, we begin to ponder what we do.
All of these questions are ones that we can ask our self and then sit with during times of silence, and reflect on them. When we want to become more conscious, then everything matters. The way we act, our responses and the quality of our interactions do matter.
My spiritual teacher, Sat Shree, was just speaking about this in a talk he gave from India this week. He shared that as a teen he had lived a rather wild life, not seeing a reason for living otherwise. And when he had his spontaneous awakening in 1998, immediately he saw that EVERYTHING MATTERS. In that moment, he knew that Life was Purposeful and what a person does or doesn’t know makes a difference.
And as he began living in his new consciousness much was revealed to him, so he came to just KNOW how the universe works. One aspect of this knowingness was that he saw it was important for individuals not to avoid experiences or turn away from those situations that are difficult to deal with. He saw that energetically, all situations need to be met; otherwise one’s system will create structures or patterns to avoid similar situations in the future.
As I reflect on this now, I find the human system AMAZING in its complexity and so beautiful. We came here in a body…to learn and to grow! So it would make perfect sense that if we tend to avoid something, it would be the perfect learning opportunity for us.
In the same way, if we have strong desires for certain things or certain types of experiences, this too is not the most favorable way to live. As a human we want to learn to be more neutral, to ACCEPT WHAT IS and to learn to handle whatever arises. Would not life be so much easier, if we were able to go along with the flow of life and BE PRESENT to each moment, as it appears in front of us?
If this is the first time you are hearing these ideas, you might have a strong reaction to what you are reading. I can understand that this can be a challenge at first, because for many, having strong preferences may have been a way of life for you. We see others around us wanting this or that, so it becomes the way we learn to live too. We accept this as normal. And yet, when one chooses the spiritual path, the conscious life, we are introduced to new ideas, truths and guidelines for living more aligned with universal principles.
But doesn’t it make sense that being able to accept what arises would make live SO much less stressful.One way to be able to live in a more neutral manner, is to take time to sit in the silence; to become still and allow these new ideas, new ways of being to flow through you. When we allow the universal energies to flow through us, things can shift. It’s only when we are living as a separate “person”, wanting this or that, that such preferences come into play so strongly.
The truth is that we are MORE than our little separate self. The “Being” that animates our life through our personality is of a different nature. And when we give our self over, we can relax; we can allow things to shift and this actually supports us with living aligned to the universe in a much deeper manner.
Do know that the Universe is Purposeful! And as we listen to our heart, to our inner guidance, we can learn to relax into a new way of living… with less stress, less preferences and to ACCEPT life as it shows up.
Sending great love to you,
|Posted on February 28, 2018 at 1:40 AM||comments (0)|
Have you ever listened consciously to the “talk” that in going on within your mind?
Years ago, I was in a writing class, and the intention was to write a book of 50,000 words in 6 months, I believe it was. So, I thought it would be a great idea to write about our inner dialogue. So, I decided to keep track of the type of thoughts I was saying to myself. I was shocked; much of it was so negative.
You’ll never do that!
Why are you doing it that way?
Why did you say that?
At first I kept a tally list with only two columns. One column was positive self-talk and the other column was negative self-talk. I was so surprised that I told myself such negative things. After a while, the list became more specific and I’d focus on the different types of self-talk.
I invite you to LISTEN to your inner voice.
What is it telling you?
Do you like what it is saying?
Today, my inner dialogue is much more positive.
Yes, you’ll be able to do that!
You did a great job teaching today!
Great job, you’ve done yoga every day since you arrived on your retreat!
And yet, we have to be the "watchful observer", making sure those negative thoughts aren't sneaking into our inner diagolue. I hope you can enjoy the process of listening to your inner dialogue and getting to know yourself on an even deeper level. It really is an exciting adventure to discover more about our self.
Learning about our self and learning to create that which we want in the world is a life-time adventure. Enjoy the journey!
With great love,
Please email me at email@example.com I’d love to hear from you.
|Posted on February 28, 2018 at 1:30 AM||comments (0)|
I’ve always been drawn to the words, “know yourself”. To me, there has always been a pull to know myself. There are so many ways that one can know them self. I think I’ll brainstorm here, just how one can know them self.
To know your talents
To know your skills
To know the foods your body likes
To know what your body doesn’t like
To listen to your body when it speaks to you
To know what experiences nurture you
To know what experiences do not nurture you
To know what your self- talk is
To know when you act against your internal compass
To know when you are aligned with your spirit
To know the values you stand for
To know the attributes you easily show
To know the attributes that are difficult for you to express
To know if you have something to forgive
To know if you have an inner emotional dis-ease
To know when your body needs rest
To know when your body needs exercise
I so enjoy blogging, because it is a means for me to challenge myself, to bring forth something new.
I invite you to create such a list.
What do you know about yourself?
What do you not know about yourself?
Is there an area you want to explore?
Any of these questions or the questions you come up with are excellent for self-inquiry. Just ask a question, sit with it and see if something arises. If so, wonderful, you have another piece of the puzzle. If nothing arises, just allow the question to remain. The universe does hear you! The universe is purposeful. You never know when a response may come to your open- ended question. Enjoy the mystery.
Sending great love to you… knowing YOU are a unique soul on this planet Earth, with a special and unique reason for being! LOVE YOURSELF!
I’d love to hear from you. My email address is: firstname.lastname@example.org
|Posted on February 27, 2018 at 1:10 AM||comments (0)|
Last night, great winds came up during the night! Winds that actually woke me up, which is very unusual. To make matters worse, or should I say to make things NOSIER, there was a tarp on the roof, that had come loose but was still attached to the structure it was protecting by a single rope and was flapping all around constantly!
As it was blowing around, it would have one type of sound when hitting the roof, another sound when hitting the window and still another sound when it would hit the sky-light. The sounds were different in each moment. It really was entertaining as I became more aware of the various sounds.
As I lay there half asleep and half awake, I compared it to the TRUTH that we live by or the VALUES that we stand for. When we aren’t sure of our way; when we aren’t sure of our values, we are blown this way and that...just like the tarp was the blown this way and that with the winds.
Not knowing what we stand for, we stand for nothing. We may have a thought here or a thought there, but with no consistency, with no certainly, and thus with no authority!
So, I inquired, “Am I like that tarp, just blowing this way and that, or do I stand for something, is there stability in that which I stand for?”
And so I ask you, WHAT DO YOU STAND FOR?
And then I inquired, “Is what I stand for hidden away or can it be heard just as the tarp was so easily heard last night?”
And so I ask you, ARE YOUR VALUES VISIBLE OR HIDDEN AWAY?
I do believe that we are in an era where each voice is important and has a purpose in connection to the greater whole.
I invite you to…
and to have FAITH that YOU have a role to play in creating a world that works for everyone, not just a few.
Let your voice be heard!
In addition, I invite you to be aware of what is happening in THIS moment.
And as I come to do this more and more… without anger, judgement or repulsion, the present moment, brings to me an awareness about life that is refreshing, deepening…and very meaningful.
Please comment here or send me your thoughts. I’d love to hear from you.
|Posted on February 26, 2018 at 4:10 PM||comments (0)|
Dear Readers ~
As you may have noticed my blogging stopped very suddenly!
On February 15th, I received a very surprising email, giving me a 30 day notice to move out of my home. Although the property was up for sale, it had been discussed that I could stay and see if the new owners wanted a renter. I have been there almost 4 years and the house fit my needs completely. However, life happened and a move was needed.
SO, life as I knew it stopped in many ways. Much time went into reflection, on my next step. Thus the blogging stopped too!
So my apology!
And then an 8 day trip away had already been planned, so that was the next “big thing” on the agenda.
SO, for this blog, I want to reflect on HOW do we handle change?
How have you learn to handle the unexpected?
First, for me, I had a conversation to make sure, the move was needed. And when I realized that is was needed, I had to stop “wanting” to change the situation and ACCEPT WHAT IS!
Next, came GRIEVING. I had to grieve my lovely home! I had to face that I would no longer be here. The grieve rose up within me suddenly two days later. At that point I walked around the house, spontaneously, touching all that I loved, thinking of all the memories, sobbing. It was intense! But it lasted only 5 minutes!! I was amazed.
Next the MIND kicked into place and began analyzing what I could do, where I could go, etc. The MIND was not happy with the changes and kept very busy.
Then, my higher self, the God within, the Divine within, took the driver’s seat (as my spiritual teacher would say). This is different than the mind; it came from a place of just KNOWINGNESS. And the flavor of the knowingness that came in was to move nearer to my spiritual teacher. With God in the driver’s seat, everything fell into place within about 48 hours, all was set it place to begin that process. And all seemed well!
However, the mind woke up and my “ego” came out again. The QUESTIONING began! Then the DOUBT jumped in! “WHAT ARE YOU DOING?” Then much fear of the unknown arose. How can I move so soon? I’ve never lived in another state before! How will I pack everything? Will I need a moving truck? Etc.!
However, the next morning when I awakened, COURAGE was present and 95% of the FEAR was gone. The questioning and doubt had subsided. And there I stood in COURAGE. There was courage to welcome the change; courage to handle whatever was necessary; courage to move forward with joy.
What an amazing process I observed that “this person Sharon” went through.
I’m wondering what YOUR process was,
when you’ve had to face the Unexpected?
I do believe that the most powerful Truth to stand by, when the unexpected comes, is to Accept What Is. We must develop a relationship with what has happened and to accept our emotions about the situation. As we are present with what is, it can transform.
The UNIVERSE is FOR US! It deeply support us in our process of growth and change and thus if given an opportunity to work with us, will show us how to work with the situation.
I’d love to hear from you…about your experience.
Feel free to contact me at: SharonAnnWikoff@gmail.com I’d love to hear from you.
Together We Learn…Together We Grow!
With great love, Sharon
|Posted on February 18, 2018 at 2:50 AM||comments (0)|
Dear Readers ~
When we live consciously in life and fully present to what is going on and see our imperfection…it may be difficult to allow it to be. We may have shame or embarrassment around our past actions. We may feel humiliation. Holding on to those feeling toward our self or others doesn’t do any good.
So if we can have compassion for our self knowing that we are always doing the best we can in any one moment, it may be easier to extend such compassion. Realizing that everyone, including our self, is always doing the best we know how to do, was very healing for me.
MENTAL KNOWING AND BODILY KNOWING:
Now, that I think about it, I had known that truth “mentally” for years…but it hadn’t been a huge “knowing”. It hadn’t made a difference in the way I lived. It was only when that truth became embodied, that I “got it”. For me to take an idea from the “mental” realm into the “body” realm, I have to sit with it…and allow it to come into my body. Sometimes, my body will actually tingle when I knew idea in penetrating it. It may be different for you.
Simply taking the words, I AM ALWAYS DOING THE BEST I CAN into your time of sitting in silence, can bring them into your consciousness and body in a greater way. During this, you may want to be aware of what takes place in your body, as you repeat the words. Perhaps an idea of your body will become more alive, more awake.
When we deeply understand that we did the best we knew how to do in any one moment, then we can extend compassion to our self… a deep understanding that we did our best, and we are a spiritual being… living and learning her in “Earth School”.
And along with compassion, comes forgiveness. Letting go of the error, getting back up and continuing the journey, is living rightly.
THICH NHAT HANH:
Thich Nhat Hanh, a Vietnamese Monk, states that “when you can make peace with it (your pain) you won’t suffer as much. And when one realizes their suffering, they are freer, feel lighter and can approach the moment with a sense of freedom, of possibility, of hopefulness.
“There is suffering, fear, and anger
Inside of us, and
When we take care of it,
We are taking are
Of the world.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
This is such a powerful statement I believe. What a deep blessing it is to know that as YOU heal, you heal the world! And as YOU face your darkness, you lesson the darkness in the world.
Know that YOU make a difference!
Wishing you a day of great compassion and forgiveness,
Ps I’d love to hear from you. You can email me at: email@example.com
|Posted on February 17, 2018 at 4:35 AM||comments (0)|
For most of my life, I’ve expected PERFECTION from myself. I wanted to do things in the “right” way, to have them turn out 99% perfectly. WOW, what a lot of stress that put on me…and I didn’t even realize it at the time.
This past year, I had a big opportunity to do a new radio program… on a wonderful internet station. I had raised funds for it for over a year and put much preparation into the content. For a variety of reasons, I was not content with the first few programs. It was devastating! I felt I had let down those that had supported me greatly. It was very difficult to accept what was happening.
So, I really had to look at the situation from a spiritual perspective. My spiritual Teacher, Sat Shree, is a Realized being and thus has had the personal experience of “seeing” and “knowing” the Truth about Life. And from that perspective he teaches how to appraoch life rightly. Here are some Truths and Guidelines that relate to this situation from his Teachings:
Choose What Is
Do the work without demand or expectation
Meet what is before you
Let go of expectations
Do not believe your negative story
Once I looked fully embraced the situation from this perspective, I accepted what was happening. I actually came to accept the situation as it was. And in this, there was a great freedom. It was a huge lesson!
From past experience, when I blog for 30 days straight, I put myself in a place where I have to “reach deep” into my consciousness to create the content for the blogging. And so the content is fresh! It’s new! And thus, wanting to post it daily, I don’t feel I have the time to have it formally edited. My preference would be to have it “perfect”. However, it’s just not realistic. This has been a challenge to live with. And yet, it’s very refreshing, very enlivening, to keep up the momentum of a daily blog.:)
Then, on top of my imperfections, I’ve noticed that the new platform I’m using at Vista Print also has some imperfections in it. So, I spent almost an hour on the phone today with their customer service, which is awesome. I learned that I actually caused the problem by not copying and pasting to Note Pad first before pasting print into the site. SO, as much as we attempting to create the proper spacing and delete extra characters, it wasn’t coming out perfectly.:/
SO, I decided I also need to allow “systems” to be imperfect. Another great lesson.
So, here are some questions for self-inquiry:
Are you able to allow yourself to be imperfect?
Are you able to allow others to be imperfect?
Are you able to allow “systems” to be imperfect?
When you sit with your responses, how does your body feel?
Could listening to your body be a measure for learning to response to life situations?
Wishing you a splendid day of being imperfect,:)
|Posted on February 15, 2018 at 1:10 AM||comments (0)|
Today being Valentine’s Day, you might have been the recipient of LOVE or the giver of LOVE. Or perhaps you were disappointed by what a day of “LOVE” could have looked like for you.
We often have high expectations of such a day as Valentine’s Day, wanting it to be “perfect” and anticipate what might take place. If we have high expectations then disappointment may follow. And if we are really honest with our self about life and living, there is much we may be exposed to that is not what you would call “loving”. And yet we want desperately to live in the field of LOVE! Thus, how do we find harmony, peace or contentment with all this?
There are some spiritual Truths that have helped me when everything doesn’t seem perfect…so thought I’d share them.
1. Everyone is always doing the best they can in that moment.
2. Life is purposeful
3. Each of us have a role to play
4. You have choice
5. Accept what is
Karla McLaren, author of The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You wrote this about LOVE.
“The truth about love is this: Love is constant; only the names change.
Love doesn’t just restrict itself to romantic relationships.
Love is everywhere-in the hug of a child, in the concern of a friend,
in the center of your family, and in the hearts of your pets.”
In addition, the situations, that appear imperfect, because we would like things to be differently, are perhaps an opportunity for us to learn and grow, to open our heart…if we can be open to such imperfection. Rumi’s poem, The Guest House, puts this so beautifully.
If you day wasn’t perfect according to you expectations, perhaps this will bring some comfort to you… even some LOVE.
THE GUEST HOUSE
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Sat Shree, a Realized Teacher, writes this about the heart.
“The human heart expands through trials, troubles, disappointments, losses and failures.
Human maturity is the capacity to include everything in our lives.
The purified heart carries a capacity to accept and love without repulsion or judgment.
The mature heart surrenders to what IS.”
So no matter what you day brought…
Know that even with the ups and downs….
The so called good or bad….
As Rumi says….all “has been sent as a guide from beyond.”
Sending much LOVE your way….
|Posted on February 14, 2018 at 12:35 AM||comments (0)|
Has your body ever known something before your mind knew it?
I’ve had this happen several times…and it was always amazing to me. My body would seem unsettled for no apparent reason. And then something would happen…and I’d say, “Oh that was what my body knew.”
Also, for years, I’ve occasionally gone to bed with a question on my mind. And sure enough, in the morning, I'd awaken with a deep knowing and the answer was there.
Do you listen to your body?
Does it speak to you?
Years ago I had an extraordinary experience that showed me the great knowing and remembrance in the body. It actually transported me back to infancy in a remarkable way.
This was the setting:
I was attending a week-end workshop, called Women, Power and Money. I was driving back to class after lunch and thinking about the afternoon session when I was going to be talking about a new aspect of my work and that was about the importance of “wearing” your young infant.
I always had a difficult time putting on the sling, so I was actually wearing it…with a “baby-doll” nestled in it, as I drove to class.
Here is the rest of the story, as I wrote it after the incident:
And all of a sudden I got a very stiff neck. It came on so suddenly, it really surprised me. I thought back to what I had done to bring it on, and nothing came to mind. While at a stop sign…I glanced down at the doll I was carrying in my sling, and realized that the doll had become me…as a “baby”! I saw that in that moment… I was carrying “myself”. I was in awe! It was a moment, where life just stood still!
Shortly thereafter I realized it was “me” as an infant that was having the stiff neck. My mother was holding me, wanting me to breastfeed. I kept trying to turn away from her. This was causing “my” neck to be very stiff. I did not want to be close to her. Then I realized there was an odor I was attempting to get away from. What was it? Why did I have to work so hard, to breathe? Then I realized that being in her arms I was being immersed in the odor of stale and fresh cigarette smoke. I must have felt the pain of that moment, because I began deeply sobbing! I pulled the car over and stopped. I had never had an experience like this before. Could this really be happening? I was attempting to turn away because of the stench of her body because of her smoking. I sat there in awe…and the sobbing continued.
I knew I had to get back to class, so forced myself to stop crying. Finally I composed myself, still in awe of what had happened! I drove to the class. However, I took off my sling and left it in the car. I entered the room late, still stunned from the experience and did not speak about it during the class at all.
Thinking back to that experience over 12 years ago, I still am in awe, how the body can have us remember something that has happened over 50 years earlier.
I questioned, was that really true? Then I recalled that years back my Grandmother, with whom I was very close and spent every week-end with between the ages of 10 and 17, told me that my mother was very distressed when I would not breastfeed as a new-born. Grandma said that Mom tried everything, but I would not take her breast. And as an adult, I have always been bothered by cigarette smoke…and avoid it whenever possible. So, it does seem and feel like a very true remembrance.
The body does know!
So, what is the implication of this?
Can we ask the body questions we wish to know the answer too?
Can it reveal the true cause of our fears?
Does it know the purpose for our life?
If we listen to our self-talk will it reveal to us why we are anxious?
Even as I write this myself, I’m realizing myself, the tremendous possibility we have in our body. I want to create a deeper practice in my listening.
How about you?
Do you want to listen to your body in a deeper way?
Until next time...
With love, Sharon
S h a r o n A n n W i k o f f
Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner EFT-CC, EFT-ADV, Minister, Elementary Educator, Parent-Child Educator
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