After reading some inspiring pieces this morning from the world of Facebook, which I’m not often on, I feel inspired to write for my Blog.
I’ve been taking a course with Lesa Townsend on Blogging over the last several weeks. She encourages us to post daily for a period of time. This is my second such “challenge” with her and I find it MOST inspiring!
Having to write a new post EVERY DAY, forces me to look for something “new” to write about...something fresh…something inspiring…something that has not been said before.
As I write this, I’m seeing that this is exactly what I wanted to invite PARENTS to consider…in being with their children day in and day out…moment by moment.
How can we as parents, teachers, grandparents be “present” to each moment?
Children are always in the
What does it mean when I say children are “present” to the moment? What does it mean when I ask how can we, as teachers and parents, become “present” to the moment?
When one is “present” in the moment, they are FREE from thinking about the past. The following has probably happened:
They are free from yesterday.
They are free from the hurts of yesterday.
They are free from the conversation 1 hour ago.
They have forgiven their past.
They are 100% engaged in their present thought.
They are 100% ready to take their next action.
They are free from grudges.
They are free from yesterday’s success.
They are ready to interact with others and create something totally new in that moment.
When a child is freed from his/her past, this allows the child to be fully “present” at this very moment in time.
NOTE: This is not true of all children and can change from day to day. When a child does have left over hurts from yesterday, the “Presence” of the teacher/parent to that situation can support the child in releasing the past. My blog from November 19th, called: Allowing Our Self to Feel / Allowing Our Children To Feel, discusses one such situation that happened in the classroom and how this was addressed.
Years ago I had an experience in a preschool that illustrates this point. I had prepared an art activity for a group of 4 and 5 year old children.
There were numerous pre-cut shapes on the table for the children to combine to create a collage. I was sitting with them. One child picked up an orange circle and wanted 4 of them for his art piece. Only 3 were left, so he asked me to cut another for him. He received it gratefully and said thank you.
Minutes later another child asked me to cut a red triangle for her, which she could not find on the table. The interaction between the children was so sweet, each helping others find just the piece they were seeking. In addition, they would ask me to cut the pieces they could not find.
During this activity, I felt such a deep connection to each child. Even now, as I write about this, I remember that feeling so well. Here is what I think made it so powerful.
WHAT MAKE THIS EXPERIENCE
ALL WERE VERY PRESENT TO THE MOMENT, INTERACTING, AND CREATING MOMENT BY MOMENT.
I DEEPLY SENSED THE PLEASURE THEY WERE HAVING MAKING REQUESTS OF ME. THIS WAS EMPOWERING TO THEM.
SO OFTEN CHILDREN ARE REQUIRED TO FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS FROM ADULTS. WHAT A JOY IT MUST HAVE BEEN FOR THEM, TO BE THE "ONE ASKING" IN THIS MOMENT.
THE CHILDREN WERE COMMUNICATING WITH EACH OTHER TO HELP EACH FIND WHAT THEY WERE LOOKING FOR.
100% OF EACH PERSON’S ATTENTION WAS ENGAGED IN THE PROJECT.
THE CHILDREN FELT TOTALLY SUPPORTED IN THEIR ART PROJECT. THERE WERE NO RIGHT OR WRONG SUGGESTIONS OR REQUESTS.
Why is it so difficult for us as adults to be as “little children”, present to the moment?
The older we get the more we seem to “remember” the past and bring that into the present moment.
Our thinking might be along these lines:
Yesterday, Johnny, didn’t cooperate…I wonder what he’ll do today?
This morning Susie was hurtful to Sally, I wonder what she’ll do in art today?
Last week Andy didn’t like the art lesson, I wonder what he’ll do today?
This morning, my husband and I didn’t get off to a great start, I wonder what tonight will be like?
THOUGHTS SUCH AS THESE
KEEP US TIED TO THE PAST...
AND NOT IN THE PRESENT MOMENT
So, if we want to really bring our “best Self” to the Present moment, we need to allow for a fresh start in each and every moment.
Today, I invite you to...
SEE with new eyes…
HEAR with new ears…
THINK with a clear awareness…
ACT with new understanding….
Wishing you a wonderful day...a day of Seeing with new eyes...