Signs of Living in PEACE
As I was reviewing the various subjects I’ve written about during this month on the subject of Raising Peaceful Children, I thought of writing about the signs of PEACE; about how to judge how much peace there is, or isn't, in our daily life and in that of our children.
Following are signs that I feel are found int the lives of both adults and children as they find their center of PEACE. The more peace there is within, the more these qualities will appear in individuals:
KINDNESS AND CARING:
When at peace one is often more apt to care about others and touch them with their kindness.
STORY: Several weeks ago I was watching my neighbor's 2 year old child. Her neighbor, a 10 year old came over to play with her. The 10 year old appeared so present in the moment and eager to help with the 2 year old. She intuitively knew what the little one wanted and eagerly helped her with her snack, getting her top off and then read a story to her. It was such a joy to observe the two together. Being kind and caring was just her nature.
PRESENT IN THE MOMENT: When one is at peace there is less concern about the past and/or the future, their life takes place only in the current moment, and it’s in the present moment that all of life's magic appears.
STORY: There is nothing I enjoy more than playing in the “moment” with a young child just learning to use her/his language. When they learn a new word and use it and then get a response, it is just such fun! The look on their face when they say something, and the other person hears them and responds! Some years ago I was facilitating Parenting Classes at a yoga studio and we had a grand opening. Over 50 people were there. The daughter of the owner was there also. She was about 16 months old. At one point she crawled near me and I asked if I could pick her up. She put her hands up to me and our fun began. She’d point to various things in the room and I’d carry her near to them. First is was the altar with the candles. Next it was the front window, where you could see the rain coming down. With her gestures, words and eye glances, we carried on a conversation for over 10 minutes. It was pure joy…peace…and bliss, living in those moments with her.
LAUGHTER: I believe laughter, coming from the heart, is also a sign of PEACE. When one hears that deep type of laughter, I truly believe it comes from a place of peacefulness.
STORY: I so enjoy hearing a hearty laughter from children when they are playing happily with others. Last week I was with two children, two girls 8 and 9 years of age. Although they are really good friends, they had been having some difficulty playing together. However, being neighbors, they enjoy each other’s company. Their parents had been working with them to resolve their differences. I was with them and they were playing a game and all of a sudden broke out in this hearty LAUGHTER! It continued for the course of the game and was a delight to hear! Such a moment of PEACE.
ENJOYMENT: Enjoying the process of living shows peacefulness.
STORY: As I think of the enjoyment of life, I reflect on my Grandmother, Gem. We spent many many hours together. And as I look back at them, she was almost always in a deep state of enjoying life. There was a peacefulness that she lived with day in and day out. And, although she was deeply saddened when in her 80’s she suffered the lost of her husband after over 50 years of marriage, eventually she returned to her enjoyment of life and found a contentedness in family, friends and hobbies.
CONTENTMENT: With PEACE comes a sense of deep contentment, no longing, no strong desires, just a satisfied feeling of pleasure.
STORY: I have a dear friend who I have known for over 50 years. She spent a lifetime working hard and raising her children. Several years back she retired and is living a life of great contentment, traveling, caring for her home and precious little doggie. Contentment is different for each person. As an exercise think about what makes you contented.
TRANQUILITY: When there is PEACE, one lives with sense of deep Tranquility. When one is living in peace there is a great TRANQUILITY; there is no unrest. When in a tranquil state attributes like anger, being judgmental, feeling guilty, being upset and engaging in arguments simply disappear from one's life.
Perhaps you have other qualities that you relate to PEACFULNESS. Life is different for each of us. In addition, what makes for such peacefulness may be different to.
I invite you to take a daily ‘reading’ of your peacefulness? On a scale of 1 to 10 what is the degree of your peacefulness? What makes it so? Is there any change you want to make to create more peacefulness?