Focusing on “What is Right”!
Some years ago, I met a gentlemen who had initiated a program for Abundance and it was based on looking at “what is already right”, not focusing on the problem, or what is wrong. I was very curious about his approach and asked him more about it. He referred me to Kurt Wright’s work, and the book Breaking the Rules.
Kurt Wright, founder and President of Clear Purpose Management, Inc., has spent more than 20 years working with top business leaders and their organizations, all around the world, to support them in getting on a roll. This work all stemmed from a decision he made in 1970 and that was to spend the rest of his life working to understand what each of us is like at our very best.
For Wright, being on a roll is not about copying others or depending on someone else's rules; it’s about accessing your own power, your own inner knowing, and being guided by that.
I think that this approach has a very important part to play in Raising Peaceful Children. I find that a great idea in one field can transfer very well to another area. So, I invite you to take time out as your read this, so ponder what is right in your family, classroom, school, or whatever children you have the JOY for playing and working with in your life.
Following are the five questions that Kurt Wright has used in his work to get people on a roll. I ask you to ponder them and see if you feel they could add to your journey of Raising Peaceful Children.
What do I know is already right?
What is it that makes it right?
What would be ideally right?
What’s not yet quite right?
What resources can I find to make it right?
I often find that when I come from a totally difference place in seeking newness in a situation, I can see the challenge from a new vantage point. In relating this to Raising Peaceful Children, you can see that this approach offers you an opportunity to see your present situation, from the position of what is it that you ALREADY have working for you. It’s a very slight change, and yet profoundly different!
Another aspect of this is that with this perspective, you look at the big picture, and truly honor what is already working, so that when you do what to change something, you do it in small steps, keeping in place ALL the positives and you just begin adding more to that which already exits.
Sometimes, without such an approach as this, if there are several challenging situations with your children, the negative behaviors seem overwhelming. You might say, “This situation will never be peaceful.” And yet at the same time, if you see your children are now saying “Please” and “Thank you” more, sharing toys more often and helping each other during play time, YOU WILL BE ENCOURAGED!
Wishing you a wonderful Journey…