This Blog is all about Having Courage to Parent – Independent of Common Practices and…
…Independent of what the “neighbors” are doing!
…. Independent of what your children’s friends are doing!
…. Independent of your children’s begging and begging!
In today’s fast-paced world, you are asked to make many many decisions through-out the day. Often this can be over-whelming, especially when your children end up begging for something just at the moment when your mind is trying to figure out what to do about the five other things that have to be taken care of.
If you do not have a “plan” or “values” in place which make such decisions easy, you may just say OK… you can watch that program on TV or YES, you can download that song on your I Phone, or YES, you can go to the mall with your friends or
YES, you can have the crayons in the living room...
even though your internal guidance is saying a strong NO to each of these requests.
Today is July 4th, the anniversary of the publication of the Declaration of Independence from Great Britain in 1776. This day is a day of celebration in remembrance of that huge step in history and a day of celebration for remembering all the positive aspects of the United States.
Setting aside days of special observances are a way of honoring something significant!
Sometimes they are for a public issue or social cause, ethnic group, historic event or noted individual.
Do you have such special observances in your family?
Birthdays are one such day, when the individual is acknowledged and remembered.
As I was pondering this day of celebration,
I thought about the family
and how this day could be celebrated
to enhance one’s family.
And what came to me is the importance of making a big deal about something significant that a family wants to create in their lives.
So, I ask you….
Do you want to raise peaceful children?
Do you want to have more peace and harmony in your family?
Do you want to have a deeper connection with your children?
Are you willing to look at “every” activity, “every” word, “every” action
in your child’s life and hold them accountable to living your family values?
Are you willing to look at your own words, actions and activities and align them with your family values?
If your response is YES, I say congratulations…because this is what it takes to Raise Peaceful Children! And I invite you to celebrate and honor this day by printing out and signing this “Declaration of Independence for Raising Peaceful Children “. In doing so you’ve taken the first step toward truly raising peaceful children and aligning the values you hold dear into all aspects of your family life.
“Declaration of Independence for Raising Peaceful Children“
When in the Course of family life, it becomes necessary for one family to dissolve the connections which have connected them to another, and to assume the powers to which they are entitled of living in peace, harmony and love, they state the causes which impel them to the separation.
The following are the facts about the happenings in our family. We declare them and submit them to all. (You can substitute your own list here.)
1. Words of disrespect have been used toward each other.
2. Actions of disrespect have been used toward each other.
3. Others have influenced one or more persons into actions and behaving in inappropriate ways.
4. Actions have been taken which are not in the best interest of the individual/ family.
5. The family has been disconnected from one another.
6. Individuals have not been appreciated and honored.
7. Our family has not been there 100% for each person.
Therefore we declare that our family, from this point forward will release such connections and relationships that do not serve the highest aspirations of our family. In addition we declare we are bound to live with these guidelines:
1. We will associate with others who are kind, respectful and caring.
2. We will speak to one another in a kind way.
3. We will honor and respect the uniqueness of each individual.
4. Each person will be nurtured in being their own unique self.
5. We will create the family values we want to live by.
6. We will listen to one another.
7. We will care about the well-being of each individual.
8. We will have the courage to stand up to words, actions and behaviors that are not aligned with our family values.
9. We will always be there for each other.
I agreed, as a member of the _________________ family to do my very best to live by these guidelines every day.
NOTE: Have each member of the family agree to sign this Declaration.
Signed on ____________________________________
Congratulations! Congratulations for taking this very significant step toward the future health and peacefulness of your family! I invite you to celebrate this happening! You've taken the most important step in creating a new way of living and Raising Peaceful Children!
NOTE: Tomorrow I will share with you 21 VALUES to consider for the CORE VALUES of your family. I’ve found that choosing just four of them works well for most families and/or school settings.
I truly applaud you for taking a stand for you family today and choosing to journey down the path of RAISING PEACEFUL CHILDREN!
RAISING PEACEFUL CHILDREN in action!
Have a fun Fourth of July with your family. Play a game! Have a picnic! Dance in the park! Playing together, and totally releasing the challenges you may be facing is essential. Even if you are very angry at one or more of your children right now, or your spouse…allow this to be a day of celebration! Forgive the past for now and have a joyous time together. On this July 4th, may the “force” be with YOU! You all deserve a fun day together, filled with JOY, PEACE and LOVE!
Sharon Ann Wikoff is the mother of three marvelous adult children. She holds two teaching credentials: General Elementary K-8 and Adult Education: Parent Education/ Child Study and holds a CC-ADV certification in EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). Sharon is the author of three eBooks; The Art of Communicating with Infants and very Young Children and the Art of Listening To Children: The 10 Minute Miracle and Daddy, Why Are We Different. She is passionate about inspiring families to raise peaceful children by aligning all that goes on in the home with their "core family values". She works individually with families via the telephone or skype. She can be reached through her website: www.SharonAnnWikoff.com, which also contains her Blog: Raising Peaceful Children, SharonAnnWikoff@gmail.com or at 707 820. 4212