The first thing that I do when I'm involved in supporting a family who wants to bring about change in their household, is to encourage them to do the following:
STOP: Stop and take a time out and relax! Breathe...and do nothing! Get a cup of tea or coffee and sit down and enjoy!
LOOK: Look around at your home environment and your children.
LISTEN: Listen to the conversations amongst your children and/or their playmates. In addition, listen to yourself and the way you speak to them when you interact with your children.