Sharon Ann Wikoff

Create a life-style with daily practices that support YOU in your Be-coming!   


The Bitter-Sweet Truth of Childhood & How To Find Peace

Posted on March 2, 2018 at 5:30 PM Comments comments (0)

Some months ago I was reflecing on the idea of PEACE, both World Peace and Inner Peace.  And after reading some materials, I deeply realized that PEACE is dependent on the peace of its people! Of course, I realized, how could it be any other way?

So, that means, we each have an opportunity to find that inner peace for our self…and as we do so, we actually take a step toward creating a peaceful world.

Have you found a way to live in a peaceful way? What has worked for you?

For me, I’ve learned to accept for the most part, that which I can not change. I’ve learned to live in a state of “allowing” whatever is to be.

This means allowing the world situation to be.

This means allowing my past to be.

This means allowing my adult children to be.

This means allowing my friends to be just as they are.

This means for the most part to accept What Is.

But one thing happened some years ago, that I had a hard time allowing to be. This was when I had a spontaneous remembrance of my infancy. I saw myself so uncomfortable in my mother’s arms because of the strong distasteful odor of cigarettes!  Seeing this and feeling this, I was deeply saddened. Even today, I do not like being around cigarettes, and realized how difficult it was for me as an infant.  And in time, I deeply realized that my mother was doing the best she could at that time, so really didn’t blame her… but still was very sad.

So, my solution at the time was to write a series of letters, which I called “Dear Little Ones”. These were a series of letters written to the “little one” from their Guarding Angel. I wrote a variety of letters, each for a different stage of the little one's development.  The letters were ones we could read as an adult, comforting that "little one" within. 

Following is one such letter:


Dear Little One…

You are such a beautiful Little One! Know that as your Guarding Angel I want the best for you always! You are so special. You are unique…one of a kind. We have been awaiting your arrival. And YOU have arrived and your journey on Planet Earth has begun! You are so loved!

I feel your pain from all that goes on around you.

The gruff voices you hear.

The uncertainty of who is going to pick you up.

The times it’s so hard to breathe…with all the cigarette smoke around you.

But know that you have great courage within…courage that will carry you through life.

You have great strength within also… a strength that will allow you to go through the challenges.

And within you is faith…to carry you forward always…

And within you in great love….love that will always surround you….

Right now, just rest and take in this love…

Feel this love….

Allow it to fill you completely….

I am always with you…

With love, Your Guardian Angel


So, if you have had a bitter-sweet experience in your childhood, I hope you can take in the LOVE that is in this letter…from your guardian angel… from the Universe of love…and KNOW you are loved!!!

Just a year ago or so, during meditation, I felt just a HUGE HUGE LOVE from the Universe. It was like the Universe was loving ME! It was a love greater than any love I’ve ever experienced.

I just cried in its presence…not feeling worthy of such GREAT LOVE! So, as we come to spend time with the Universe during sitting in times of Silence…the Universe does find us at some point…and lets us know we’ve been “FOUND”, as my teacher Sat Shree would say. This is a gift.

However, right now if it is difficult for you to feel such love from the Universe or the “Dear Little One” letter, if you are still feeling the pain, there is another VERY potent way of being with all that you are feeling…AND that can heal it.

Just be with all that you are feeling.

And then, put the story aside, and just feel the “energy” of your pain.

Find its location in your body…and focus on that place in your body.

BE with it! Stay with it, without any story.

It will do one of three things:

First, it just may leave… and it will be gone.

Second, it may speak to you. It may tell you more about it. 

Third, you may feel a heat in the area or in your body in general. Stay with it. This is the transformation of that energy into light. 

What I've come to understand is that events in our childhood, which may not be what we would call "traumatic", can actually leave us with symptoms of "trauma". 

When we are little, our system is very open and thus we easily take in whatever is happening around us. And seemingly “common happenings” or every day events can cause trauma in the little one.  Peter Levine has spent a life time writing about how such experiences can be healed.  So, know that if you did have a difficult childhood, there is a way you can come to peace with it.  I invite you to seek support.  Find the resources that work for you.  Feel free to connect with me here or by  email at:  You are not alone.  

Sending much love to you….

And wishing you great peace…


The Gifts of Compassion & Forgiveness!

Posted on February 18, 2018 at 2:50 AM Comments comments (0)

Dear Readers ~

When we live consciously in life and fully present to what is going on and see our imperfection…it may be difficult to allow it to be. We may have shame or embarrassment around our past actions. We may feel humiliation. Holding on to those feeling toward our self or others doesn’t do any good.

So if we can have compassion for our self knowing that we are always doing the best we can in any one moment, it may be easier to extend such compassion. Realizing that everyone, including our self, is always doing the best we know how to do, was very healing for me.


Now, that I think about it, I had known that truth “mentally” for years…but it hadn’t been a huge “knowing”. It hadn’t made a difference in the way I lived. It was only when that truth became embodied, that I “got it”. For me to take an idea from the “mental” realm into the “body” realm, I have to sit with it…and allow it to come into my body. Sometimes, my body will actually tingle when I knew idea in penetrating it. It may be different for you.

Simply taking the words, I AM ALWAYS DOING THE BEST I CAN into your time of sitting in silence, can bring them into your consciousness and body in a greater way. During this, you may want to be aware of what takes place in your body, as you repeat the words. Perhaps an idea of your body will become more alive, more awake.


When we deeply understand that we did the best we knew how to do in any one moment, then we can extend compassion to our self… a deep understanding that we did our best, and we are a spiritual being… living and learning her in “Earth School”.


And along with compassion, comes forgiveness. Letting go of the error, getting back up and continuing the journey, is living rightly.


Thich Nhat Hanh, a Vietnamese Monk, states that “when you can make peace with it (your pain) you won’t suffer as much. And when one realizes their suffering, they are freer, feel lighter and can approach the moment with a sense of freedom, of possibility, of hopefulness.


“There is suffering, fear, and anger

Inside of us, and

When we take care of it,

We are taking are

Of the world.”

Thich Nhat Hanh


This is such a powerful statement I believe. What a deep blessing it is to know that as YOU heal, you heal the world! And as YOU face your darkness, you lesson the darkness in the world.

Know that YOU make a difference!


Wishing you a day of great compassion and forgiveness,

With love,


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The Wisdom in the Body

Posted on February 14, 2018 at 12:35 AM Comments comments (0)

Dear Readers…

Has your body ever known something before your mind knew it?

I’ve had this happen several times…and it was always amazing to me. My body would seem unsettled for no apparent reason. And then something would happen…and I’d say, “Oh that was what my body knew.”

Also, for years, I’ve occasionally gone to bed with a question on my mind. And sure enough, in the morning, I'd awaken with a deep knowing and the answer was there.

Do you listen to your body? 

Does it speak to you?  


Years ago I had an extraordinary experience that showed me the great knowing and remembrance in the body. It actually transported me back to infancy in a remarkable way.

This was the setting:

I was attending a week-end workshop, called Women, Power and Money. I was driving back to class after lunch and thinking about the afternoon session when I was going to be talking about a new aspect of my work and that was about the importance of “wearing” your young infant.

I always had a difficult time putting on the sling, so I was actually wearing it…with a “baby-doll” nestled in it, as I drove to class.

Here is the rest of the story, as I wrote it after the incident:

And all of a sudden I got a very stiff neck. It came on so suddenly, it really surprised me. I thought back to what I had done to bring it on, and nothing came to mind. While at a stop sign…I glanced down at the doll I was carrying in my sling, and realized that the doll had become me…as a “baby”! I saw that in that moment… I was carrying “myself”. I was in awe! It was a moment, where life just stood still!

Shortly thereafter I realized it was “me” as an infant that was having the stiff neck. My mother was holding me, wanting me to breastfeed. I kept trying to turn away from her. This was causing “my” neck to be very stiff. I did not want to be close to her. Then I realized there was an odor I was attempting to get away from. What was it? Why did I have to work so hard, to breathe? Then I realized that being in her arms I was being immersed in the odor of stale and fresh cigarette smoke. I must have felt the pain of that moment, because I began deeply sobbing! I pulled the car over and stopped. I had never had an experience like this before. Could this really be happening? I was attempting to turn away because of the stench of her body because of her smoking. I sat there in awe…and the sobbing continued.

I knew I had to get back to class, so forced myself to stop crying. Finally I composed myself, still in awe of what had happened! I drove to the class. However, I took off my sling and left it in the car. I entered the room late, still stunned from the experience and did not speak about it during the class at all.

Thinking back to that experience over 12 years ago, I still am in awe, how the body can have us remember something that has happened over 50 years earlier.

I questioned, was that really true? Then I recalled that years back my Grandmother, with whom I was very close and spent every week-end with between the ages of 10 and 17, told me that my mother was very distressed when I would not breastfeed as a new-born. Grandma said that Mom tried everything, but I would not take her breast.  And as an adult, I have always been bothered by cigarette smoke…and avoid it whenever possible. So, it does seem and feel like a very true remembrance.


The body does know!

So, what is the implication of this?

Can we ask the body questions we wish to know the answer too?

Can it reveal the true cause of our fears?

Does it know the purpose for our life?

If we listen to our self-talk will it reveal to us why we are anxious?

Even as I write this myself, I’m realizing myself, the tremendous possibility we have in our body. I want to create a deeper practice in my listening.

How about you?

Do you want to listen to your body in a deeper way?

Until next time... 

With love, Sharon